Vulnerability (latinwounding first known
"No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear"
When we are going
through an exceptionally hard time in our life, we may find it irritating or
insensitive to hear about the tenants of positive psychology.
Worry is a Choice
Worry: wor·ry ˈwərē/ old English-to
To worry is to feel troubled and uneasy, true fear is a gift,
is a curse and misuse of imagination.
An excessive degree of
worry impacts our health and well-being. Many of us latch onto some imagined
catastrophic future that never comes. Learn the difference between fear and worry and how to banish worry from our lives. Fear is an energizing response--it causes our bodies to take action even without our awareness.
Achieving Goals vs.
The Anti- New
Does your New
Year’s resolution look like this? Of the 45% of Americans that make resolutions,
only8%achieve their goals. This bleak
picture may stem from not applying proven methods in human change science. In order to avoid magical thinking on setting
New Year’s goals, the strategy of
contrasting can help you backward plan from the goals. This involves contrasting your desired future
with present reality.
Clearing Clutter* to
Honor the Self
Clutter (noun) \ˈklə-tər\ middle English first used in 1556, Cloterne:
We shape clay into a pot, but it is the
emptiness inside that holds whatever we want. Tao Te Ching
I wish that every human life might be pure transparent freedom.Simone de Beauvoir
The 2013 Nobel Prize in Physiologywent
to scientists who discovered the intelligence of cells was not its nucleus, but
its membrane. The cell membrane, it turns out, is the “brains” of the
cell and is fully in charge of how it responds to its environment. It has
its own aptitude about how to transport cargo in and out, when to release cargo
it no longer needs, when and with whom it will dock with, and when to call in
Let yourself be
silently drawn by the stronger pull of what you really love.
Almost universally, when a person is feeling overwhelmed in
life, it is due to the tragic expression of unmet needs. We are all dealing with the demands to do
more with less, we have multiple, and
sometimes conflicting roles (parenting vs. career- building) and research suggests
that if we get less than 6 hours of sleep
a night, our judgment is equal to that of DUI
We have 24 hours in each day, and if we are not thoughtful
about how we invest our time, we can quickly become very inhospitable to
others, monster-like even.
Change your state of mind by firing every thought you ever had and have
re-interview for its position Gretchen Pisano
One of the five central components of human wellbeing is the
ability to feel positive emotions, really feel them. Feeling positive emotions is not the same as
thinking them. It means letting the positive emotion land and
pausing to truly feel it.
Feeling positive emotions is strongly linked to the
Straightening out The Inner Life: We Become What We Think About
If we want to experience self-confidence on the outside, we must
practice integrity on the inside. Self-confidence
flows from a foundation consistent with our innermost thoughts. In this sense,
we are self-made. We are where we are because of the thoughts we have allowed
to occupy our mind. Whatever we thought over the last months or years we have
become, as the result of all of those thoughts.
Personal growth is not easy but there are ways to create inner and outer
What you help a child to love can be more important than what you help him to learn.
Last month my Aunt
Agnes passed away at the age of 86; I
have cherished her my entire life. Her
funeral was one of the most beautiful I have ever attended. A nun with the Sisters of Mercy since 1950,
she lived a beautiful and wholly authentic life. She loved deeply and cared passionately about people,
she was sharp, full of wisdom and hilarious. To describe her in a paragraph is not possible,
so I won’t.
The Rise and Fall of Urges:
Surfing the Emotional Wake
"It is more difficult to murder a
phantom than a reality".
A recent study in Germany suggests that we spend a full quarter
of our waking hours resisting urges. Yes,
our desires are frequent, variable in intensity and largely
unproblematic. Our urges create
conflict within ourselves and can intensify to the point that we act on them,
even when our best selves do not want us to. If you are longing to make a
positive change in your life, such as getting in right relationship with
food or with others or even with living the life you want, there is
science around resisting urges.