I wish that every human life might be pure transparent freedom.Simone de Beauvoir
The 2013 Nobel Prize in Physiologywent
to scientists who discovered the intelligence of cells was not its nucleus, but
its membrane. The cell membrane, it turns out, is the “brains” of the
cell and is fully in charge of how it responds to its environment. It has
its own aptitude about how to transport cargo in and out, when to release cargo
it no longer needs, when and with whom it will dock with, and when to call in
Let yourself be
silently drawn by the stronger pull of what you really love.
Almost universally, when a person is feeling overwhelmed in
life, it is due to the tragic expression of unmet needs. We are all dealing with the demands to do
more with less, we have multiple, and
sometimes conflicting roles (parenting vs. career- building) and research suggests
that if we get less than 6 hours of sleep
a night, our judgment is equal to that of DUI
We have 24 hours in each day, and if we are not thoughtful
about how we invest our time, we can quickly become very inhospitable to
others, monster-like even.
Change your state of mind by firing every thought you ever had and have
re-interview for its position Gretchen Pisano
One of the five central components of human wellbeing is the
ability to feel positive emotions, really feel them. Feeling positive emotions is not the same as
thinking them. It means letting the positive emotion land and
pausing to truly feel it.
Feeling positive emotions is strongly linked to the
Straightening out The Inner Life: We Become What We Think About
If we want to experience self-confidence on the outside, we must
practice integrity on the inside. Self-confidence
flows from a foundation consistent with our innermost thoughts. In this sense,
we are self-made. We are where we are because of the thoughts we have allowed
to occupy our mind. Whatever we thought over the last months or years we have
become, as the result of all of those thoughts.
Personal growth is not easy but there are ways to create inner and outer
What you help a child to love can be more important than what you help him to learn.
Last month my Aunt
Agnes passed away at the age of 86; I
have cherished her my entire life. Her
funeral was one of the most beautiful I have ever attended. A nun with the Sisters of Mercy since 1950,
she lived a beautiful and wholly authentic life. She loved deeply and cared passionately about people,
she was sharp, full of wisdom and hilarious. To describe her in a paragraph is not possible,
so I won’t.
The Rise and Fall of Urges:
Surfing the Emotional Wake
"It is more difficult to murder a
phantom than a reality".
A recent study in Germany suggests that we spend a full quarter
of our waking hours resisting urges. Yes,
our desires are frequent, variable in intensity and largely
unproblematic. Our urges create
conflict within ourselves and can intensify to the point that we act on them,
even when our best selves do not want us to. If you are longing to make a
positive change in your life, such as getting in right relationship with
food or with others or even with living the life you want, there is
science around resisting urges.
A friend of mine had a sudden revelation that he
didn’t want to go into his office, he hated his job. After being promoted out
of his vocation, solving software problems, he was now an executive, managing
projects, people, and politics and earning more money than he ever imagined. This
truth, that he was in the wrong job, hit him when he found a place to be quiet,
walking his dog.
Soon after, without another position lined up and a
family to support, he told his boss he was leaving, but was encouraged to stay until
the next round of bonuses were delivered in a few months.
Habits are cobwebs at first; cables at last.--Chinese
There is new research on the habit loop, which
finds that when a habit emerges, the brain stops fully participating in
decision-making. Like being asleep, some habits can be effortless and occur
unthinkingly. Hundreds of habits influence our days, how we get dressed, talk
to our kids, fall asleep. The brain’s dependence on automatic routines can be a
double-edged sword. Over time, the
habit loop “cueèroutine
èreward” becomes more and more
The ANTI New Years
“If you want
to live a happy life, tie it to a goal,
not to people or things.” Albert Einstein
Most New Years resolutions
fail by February because we lack skill or motivation or both. Setting all-or-nothing goals, goals that are
too vague, unrealistic, too ambitious, too numerous, or goals that we really don’t
want to do, set us on a road to frustration
and failure. Changing behavior requires
sustained priority setting and focused effort on ourselves and our
“No crying on the yacht” is what I overhead a mother tell her teenage
daughter shopping in a clothing store. While a hilarious and abrupt
way to identify corrosive self-pity, it can keep the spirit of thanksgiving
with us all year-round. A healthy outside starts from the inside. Being
kind and compassionate are a natural part of health and lay the foundation for
wellbeing, for both our inner life and our relational world.
So when we
find ourselves descending into a swan-dive of self-pity, remind yourself, ‘