Drop the Boiling Pot There is an old story about
campers who set a pot of water on their campfire and went into the forest to
collect more wood. On their return,
they found a bear clutching the boiling pot of water. As the bear’s distress increased, so did its tight
grip. Applying the only tool he knew of, his
physical strength to crush his victim, the bear lacked the mental agility to
try a different approach. Sometimes we humans get
stuck and clutch our own boiling pot, even when we know it is harmful to our well-being
or prevents us from achieving what we really want in life. Be sure to know what your deepest desires are
and imagine what you would be doing if you are moving forward in attaining
those goals.
Is there a scalding pot that
you are squeezing tightly? The only way
familiar to you? Is there something you could
be doing differently, even more simply, to get to your goals?
I am working with a
client (who gave me his permission to write
about him) in which he had a strained relationship with his son because every interaction
ended with him giving a lecture and his son disengaging. The
client realized what was most important to him was his relationship with his
son, and he only had one way of responding, lecturing (a hidden form of fear),
like the bear clutching the scalding pot.
The revelation of the truth in this destructive pattern which was that he
was getting in his own way to a great relationship with his son. Once that was
known, the remedy was simple. Is there a scalding pot that you need to
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