Whatever you are, be a good one. Abraham Lincoln
Are you stuck in a self-defeating pattern? When what you want and what you are doing are in conflict, you may be in Civil War with yourself. When a person is divided on itself, the harm is coming from within. A Harvard researcher studied how civil wars end successfully, and offers wisdom we can apply to our own self-sabotage. After examining 129 Civil wars that have taken place throughout the world since 1940, here is what she learned about how civil wars end, which is germane to human self-sabotage:
- When civil wars end in a clear decisive victory, those nations experience faster peace, prosperity and an end to violence.
- When wars end with negotiated settlements, on the other hand, the violence was halted only in the short -term, often erupting by the 2nd election.
- The long-term analysis reveals that negotiated settlements tended to have continued outbursts of violence and less economic prosperity, leading to a greater likelihood of war and destruction.
To interrupt our own self destructive patterns, we can apply these findings to ourselves, for enduring peace and prosperity following a civil war. To end our very own civil war with ourselves, we must call forth our highest selves to swiftly and decisively claim victory. Only one side can win. Half measures and compromise don’t lead to success. A full surrender of the darkest part of ourselves that is not serving us is recommended.