When the World Conspires to Help You
Everyone should have their mind blown once a day Neal deGrasse Tyson, Astrophysicist
This winter, I spent an extended period of time on the other side of the country helping my brother through a medical crisis. It’s been a frightening time and I was not sure he was going to pull through.
The very first chapter of my book Choosing Wellness opens when I was 11 years old at his hospital bedside when he was a teenager. Fifty years later and I’m at his bedside again as he fights for his life from multiple complications of intestinal surgery (coding on the OR table and sepsis to name a few).
What I noticed in this experience was how every single person I spoke with, in the dozens, were exceptionally kind.
The flight attendants, the young man sitting next to me on the plane, the attendant at the train station, every single Uber driver, the guy working at BestBuy who helped me replace my brother’s lost phone, even the Verizon guy waived the SIM card fee and asked me to look at his glucose monitor! Every single person working in that hospital, his neighbors who gave me keys, his girlfriend who took me out to dinner, my friends and colleagues that live in San Francisco who met me for meals. My siblings, family and friends all over the country who were in touch daily, The list is long and astonishing.
I had not encountered a single rude, troubled, or mean-spirited person during this whole ordeal. I don’t know if it was because I was looking for kindness, or if they saw distress in my eyes or I had showed up with a grateful heart, or because my brother is a really sweet person with no edge to him whatsoever and this is what he cultivates. What I felt most strongly of all was that the world had conspired to hold me and help me. I felt carried. I hope you do to.
Expect problems and eat them for breakfast. Alfred Montapert
PS He’s almost climbed the mountain top and soon coming down the other side to recovery as of February 10, 2023
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Stay Well, Eileen
PS I’d love to hear your response below.
Your brother is a very fortunate man to have a sister such as you. As you are probably convinced, your care and support of him lifted him “over the mountain” and into the stages of healing. Perhaps everyone who you encountered was kind was because you are as well.
Beautifully written as usual. So happy to hear that John is recovering. Sending many prayers that he continues to keep “climbing”. God is good!
Thank you! I am so relieved. The nurses were the very best of humanity!
Beautiful blog post. Grateful your brother is doing better.
Eileen, I’m so sorry to hear that you and your brother have been through a rough time, and glad to hear you both are doing well now. He’s a lucky guy to have you as a sister.
He is a lot sweeter than I am! Hoping the retirement going well .. great to hear from you.
And you my sweet friend are a chip off the old block from your kind-hearted brother. You are a model of compassion. Love – Helena
Eileen I am touched by your post.
Here’s to enjoying those moments of kindness!
What a beautiful story Eileen. I appreciate everything you have written since 2011. Met you at Keystone conference. Love that you attract the kindness which you exude. Thank you— Beth
Glad your brother is doing well, Eileen! He is lucky to have you help him through this difficult time. And it’s nice to know you observed so much good in the world during this trying time.
What a beautiful and authentic blog on the power of kindness. Wishing your brother John a speedy recovery.